“Can You Teach Me How To Hoe?”


As if being a hoe is Forbes most sought out career path. Despite popular belief, avoid the hoe phase at all cost. You can erase text messages, call history, even your social media accounts, but one thing is for sure, you can’t erase your past. It lingers and follows you like a bad stench.


Season two of HBO’s hit sitcom, Insecure, follows a newly single Issa on her journey to gain her sexy back, a.k.a the hoe phase. The hoe phase is a term used to describe sexual liberation. It’s the ability to sleep with whomever with no strings attached. Fresh out of a nine-year relationship, Issa Rae’s character is ready to explore the dating scene.

Instead of the typical dinner and a movie, Issa would much rather smash and pass. It’s a lot more fun to keep her boy toys in hoe-tation. During a girls night,  Issa tells her best friend, Molly, “I’m done second-guessing myself, okay. I just want to feel good. Girl, I always wanted to have the hoe phase. Can you teach me how to hoe?”

The Hoe Phase

Some will argue, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new. There’s something irresistible about sleeping with whoever you like with no strings attached. Just sex, nothing more nothing less. It’s like having your cake and eating it too, but we all know that’s impossible. So is embarking on a hoe phase and expecting a happy ending. It’s not possible. Somewhere down the line, someone is bound to catch feelings.

Your Hoe-Ness Can Get Deleted

I believe we all have the ability to change and evolve. So the notion once a hoe always a hoe is false.  We can change our hair, attitude, and friends, but there’s no way of changing the past. During an interview with the Breakfast Club, actress and model, Draya Michele said, “Your hoe-ness can get deleted.”  If that was true would Karrine Steffans till this day be referred to as “Superhead”?

Do you think the hoe phase should be embraced or avoided?
“Can You Teach Me How To Hoe?”

Plain and simple, indulging in the hoe phase will have you labeled as a hoe. Do you think Prince Charming would have pursued Cinderella if she was labeled a hoe? In a perfect world, none of us would be condemned for our past mistakes. Sadly, we don’t live in a perfect world.

Avoiding the hoe phase now will prevent the most dreaded question you’ll ever come to face in a relationship, how many people have you slept with? You can lie and give your partner false hope, but the truth will always reveal itself.

I adore Issa’s character just as much as the next person, but in season 2 Issa’s newly found liberation causes her to act just a tad bit crazy. Do you think the hoe phase should be embraced or avoided?


Krystal Ketcham

A city girl with a country girl's heart , Krystal Ketcham is a passionate storyteller. Motivated by hip hop and inspired by the culture, she is devoted to telling the story of others.