Millennials and Monogamy

Dear Millennials,

Sit down because we need to talk. What happened to us Millennials? We were born at a time where life was simple and we were in love with the modesty and simplicity of it all. By the time we all reached our 20s the world was rightfully ours for the taking and for the most part we are killing it at this game called LIFE. Many of us are moguls in the making, brand ambassadors, certified bosses and we’re literally commanding folks’ attention – so much so that brands like Forbes and Billboard are taking notice. And dammit, I am proud. But even with all our accolades and long list of accomplishments, there still seems to be one department in which many of us are falling short in. And that my friends is the department of LOVE and COMMITTMENT.


Somewhere between Ashanti‘s “Baby” and Pleasure P’s “Boyfriend #2” , much of the world began glorifying side chicks and boyfriend #2s. And I’m not sure why but in the last five years or so, the whole “sidepiece” era has seemed to take on a life all its own and transformed into a lifestyle. And I don’t know about you all but I’m not here for any of it.

Two women, one man
Caricature of polygamy

Now granted, it’s been a while since I seriously dated anyone but trust that’s for good reason. I know what I will and will not tolerate when it comes to relationship and outside of respect and loyalty, one thing I will always demand is monogamy. I don’t know how to explain it but in my opinion, there’s something so dope about being with one person and one person only and knowing that for them, you’re their only option too. For some of my peers the idea of monogamy is almost the equivalent to a foreign language and for the life of me I can’t seem to grasp my head around why. When did we begin to crave having the love and companionship of more than one significant other and what does that mean for us if we can’t fully commit our minds, souls and bodies to one person? Does it mean we’ll forever be bouncing around from job to job because we simply ‘can’t be tied down to one place for too long’ or we can’t see ourselves jumping the broom because the thought of being with one person for the rest of our lives scares us too much?

I get it, we’re young and we have our whole lives ahead of us but many of us millennials are 90s babies and I don’t know if you guys peeped this or not but in four years, the 90s will have started 30 years ago. We’re not exactly getting younger fam. At some point, we have to start considering being adults.

I’m going to open the floor up now for discussion. What are your thoughts on Millennials and Monogamy?


Monique Tillman

Beyond the words, lies a young woman… A young woman filled with drive, determination, pride, passion, and an insatiable hunger for more. A young woman who is a self-proclaimed artist, but not in the sense that she can paint a mural. She’s a verbal artist who paints pictures with words. Her beauty is more than skin deep, it lies within the lines of her words. And she’s making a name for herself as your new favorite writer.

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