While driving around town Monday, Tyrese Gibson took to social media to point out a very agreeable fact to his wide fan base. Tyrese recorded a video voicing his opinion on how he feels media such as blogs, magazines, and especially reality television shows like Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA) are ruining the functionality of many relationships. Tyrese shared:
“You, as a woman, you’re sitting there watching TV and you’re witnessing in which women complain and have issues and conflicts in their marriages that are filmed on a reality show. And they’re directly influencing issues and conflicts that are being created in your house.
That is not your f–king marriage. Those are not your issues. That is not your situation. You have what you have with your husband. That is your family. Those are your kids. That is your situation that you created. So, the fact that you’re allowing these outside images and reality TV shows and blogs and websites and all of this negative stuff that is being constantly fed on all social media [and] all over television everywhere to influence how you feel about your husband, your own family, or your wife is wrong. I believe it is a direct orchestration of the devil’s work. That’s how I feel. That’s my opinion.
Think of how many arguments were sparked and created from some s–t you seen on TV.” Read more here.
Although I don’t feel that all magazines, blogs, and reality shows are becoming detrimental to what we’re highlighting as a primary example of a successful, healthy relationship… Tyrese is making a good point and that’s simply that you are not what you see on television. More often than not people have become so comfortable with comparing aspects of their lives to that of celebrities and things they’ve seen, read, or heard via social media. As much as we’d probably hate to admit it,, but it’s not realistic at all to compare your life to something on television. It just isn’t healthy. Tyrese added this statement to the end of his video making yet another great point:
“So, for those of you that are still happily married, still in a relationship, still have this thing that I call ‘the love bubble’ where you say you know what? I don’t give a f–k what’s going on in the world. What I have with my girl is what I have with my girl, and we’re not gonna allow anybody and their outside influences to influence the foundation or the love or the integrity of what I have in this house. These are my kids. This is my family. This is my world. This is our bubble. These are our rules. If you want to wear black lipstick and black fingernails and f–kin’ platinum tall boots and wear patent leather every day, that’s my woman. That’s who I love. That’s who I’m with. We listen to Metallica every day. That’s what the f–k we do. Shut up. Don’t you tell me that my man or my woman is weird because of the things that we love to do. Whoever you have and whatever you’re into, that’s your world. That’s your love bubble. You do your thing and let me do mine.”
I love his idea of a “love bubble” and he’s exactly right. Don’t validate your feelings for someone based on the opinion of others. Do what’s necessary to make the two of you (in the relationship) happy, regardless of what you heard, read, or saw somewhere else. Stay in your love bubble and work on the one being that you and your significant other simultaneously create. If the things you’re learning and reading are beneficial to your relationship, like some of the articles you might find here on Kontrol, it is okay to allow them to naturally influence you for the betterment of your relationship, but don’t allow the petty arguments or public display of infidelity and dishonesty as reflected very often in the media rub off on you and your happy home.
If you haven’t seen the full video, view the full video here. How do you feel about Tyrese’s viewpoints on the issue?